Things no
one prepares you for:
v In a marriage, you will see bad, ugly, sometimes even
unacceptable things coming from your spouse.
v Sometimes the change you wait for comes about too
slowly to call it “progress.”
v Anger can control from what you eat one day, to what
you feel next week.
v Your spouse sometimes dresses up the truth to avoid
hearing “I told you so.”
v You doubt yourself and your decision-making and wonder
if you’re the only one making sacrifices.
v Forgiveness is hard.
v The truth hurts.
v There may not be as many joyous moments as you hoped
for.
v Routine is a killer.
v Boredom triggers problems.
v Trust is delicate, and can be damaged easily.
v Trust is hard to regain, rebuild and re-possess.
v Love is measured in effort.
v Effort is measured in actions.
v Actions don’t always fix the damage caused by words.
v You can’t take back hurting your spouse. But you can
hope to make up for it by doing something to make them happy.
v You can reassure your spouse time and time again that
you love them, but only your actions will prove it.
v Money is never enough.
v Money does not equate happiness.
v Love and money have a hate/hate relationship.
v Your past creeps up on you and your spouse even if you
try to bury it.
v Whatever you hide will come out from underneath you
and blow up in your face.
v Your spouse has to be your best friend.
v You have to be absolutely sure that you are in love
with your spouse.
v Nothing is ever easy.
But it’s easier when you work together.
v Not everything is always happy. But it’s happier if
you are together.
v Your spouse’s wants and needs should be a priority to
you.
v Your spouse’s happiness must be a priority to you.
v You must pull energy out of wherever you can to
support your spouse and their dreams.
v Comfort when you are down is essential. You must offer
this, give it selflessly, and ask for it when you need it.
v You should hear that you are loved every day of your
life with your spouse.
v When you take your spouse for granted, they suffer.
v Life is too short, and you must value your spouse and
your time with them.
v A mutual hobby helps with stress.
v Love alone isn’t enough. You must build the
relationship on respect, trust and understanding.
v In order for you to love the right way, you can’t hold
back. You also have to love selflessly.
v Your kindness will be rewarded.
v Family shouldn’t divide you; it should unite you.
v Sometimes family can make things difficult.
v A couple should complement itself—two halves that make
one unit work well.
v You should feel complete with one another.
v You should never want to feel incomplete again.
v Neglect ends in solitude.
v Lying ends in solitude.
v Pride ends in solitude.
v Disappointing your spouse ends in solitude.
v Love needs to be kept alive.
v Stress takes a toll on your attitude towards life, and
love.
v Show appreciation in a way your spouse will understand.
v No communication means no desire to know your spouse.
v No one should know your spouse better than you.
v Marriage is hard. But it’s even harder when you forget
these things.
